Confused...
We went to a couple's home for dinner tonight. The husband, who works with G (my husband) and who has been friends with him a long time, called to invite us over, and when I answered, said "oh, hi Lisa, I'm so sorry about, umm" and I let him off the hook and just said "thanks".
So, why did his wife seem to not be aware of what had gone on??
Since no one of the few people who read this really knows me, it's helpful to point out that G and I used to be in a band together with a couple guys G works with. It was a blues/rock cover band, and I was the singer. (Hence the pic of me in my profile with a microphone in hand). Anyway, we had told the band we were pregnant, and hence were stopping gigs because the smoke in the bars we normally played in wasn't healthy to me, or to the baby. (We had also told them about the first miscarriage in January, and had originally planned to stop playing then, but for some reason kept doing it.)
After the second loss, it seemed too unusual to just start back up again, as though nothing had happened. So we called it quits.
Tonight, the wife asked me if we had any gigs coming up.
I danced around the subject, figuring if she did know and I was assuming she didn't, she might be offended. But it really seemed like she didn't know. I just don't get some people.
So, why did his wife seem to not be aware of what had gone on??
Since no one of the few people who read this really knows me, it's helpful to point out that G and I used to be in a band together with a couple guys G works with. It was a blues/rock cover band, and I was the singer. (Hence the pic of me in my profile with a microphone in hand). Anyway, we had told the band we were pregnant, and hence were stopping gigs because the smoke in the bars we normally played in wasn't healthy to me, or to the baby. (We had also told them about the first miscarriage in January, and had originally planned to stop playing then, but for some reason kept doing it.)
After the second loss, it seemed too unusual to just start back up again, as though nothing had happened. So we called it quits.
Tonight, the wife asked me if we had any gigs coming up.
I danced around the subject, figuring if she did know and I was assuming she didn't, she might be offended. But it really seemed like she didn't know. I just don't get some people.
posted by Lisa P. at 11:49 PM
4 Comments:
With my husband, I'm always the last to know. Like the time my mother called to tell me my Great Uncle Roy had passed away. The message I got..."Your mother called...somebody died...I can't remember who." We had a long talk then about writing these sort of telephone messages down on paper.
Or, perhaps she knew and just figured you'd get back at it since you're no longer pregnant. A lot of people seem to think I should be "back to normal" now. It's very strange having to explain that I'm not the same person I was and I may never be "normal" again.
I hear you on the "normal" problem. I get that a lot at work (well not literally, but you can just tell with some people... "why isn't she over this yet??)
People say stupid crap when they don't know what else to say. Perhaps the question about the gig was her way of asking whether you're working again. Or, it could be her way of just saying stupid crap.
ps Love the mic pic - now it makes sense!
Yeah, that pic is the only good one of me I have right now, so that's the one I used. It was taken by the publications department of my real job, for an article where they featured things the employees do in their spare time. Kinda cool.
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